This is an email conversation between myself and Anne Delke:
Anne:
If it's possible for someone to disobey God after they are a believer, could their disobedience hurt others or just themselves? (example, if I don't listen to God telling me to call so and so, could so and so be damaged or would God help them without me?)
Andrew:
I would say that talking in "theoreticals" is not helpful. What happens happens. If you didn't call the person, then why wonder what would have happened differently if you had? I think it's more harmful than helpful to look at the past and ask, "what if?" there is only "what is."
However, your question is forward looking: "could so and so be damaged..." I'd say, yes, a person can certainly be damaged by your disobedience. But that doesn't mean God must resort to plan B. Your disobedience and the person's subsequent pain was plan A.
He knew that you would be disobedient, and he knew that the person would be damaged.
But that does not let us off the hook. From our earthly perspectives, we are still very responsible for the consequences of our disobedience.
Anne:
So, I get what you're saying about looking at the past being bad but here's why I still think it's worth thinking theoretically. Jesus talks about what will happen on the day of judgement, when people will say things like, "When did I see you poor or thirsty etc. and not give you a drink?" and Jesus responds by basically saying, "you treated me how you treated those people." At that point, we will look back and say "ya, that was good or no, what was I thinking". Shouldn't we consider our actions before we get to the "last day"? For example, I know it could make a difference if I donated money to someone or didn't or that if I would have kept my mouth shut instead of talking smack about someone, they wouldn't have had their feelings hurt. Ya, Jesus forgives me but I shouldn't forget that I hurt another person besides Jesus when I did that. I want to ask the question now, what could I have done differently/better in the past so that I ca n be more sensitive to God's direction in the future?
I understand the whole Calvinism election deal when it comes to salvation but I'm really wondering what Calvinists think about God choosing to use people who may say "no" to his instruction. I hear a lot of Calvinists say that they "live" as if their choices make a difference because they couldn't live any other way - if they did live like God had already ordained everything, they'd lose all motivation in my view. It's basically fatalistic because God does what he does and that's it - we don't make any truly free choices. But living like they believe one way and then saying they believe another is kind of silly to me. What you actually do is usually the best way to see what you really believe.
I like what you said about the "no plan B" thing - I'm not completely sure I agree, but I cannot get around the fact that it seems that God definately knows the future. Anyway, it's hard to explain why I want to think through these things but, in general, I want my talk at the women's retreat to be well thought out and this is part of the process. I'd love to hear any further thoughts from what I wrote above...
one more thought...
If I'm supposed to live as if all of my choices are truly mine and they make a difference, what do you think is the benefit of believing in Calvinism? Is it just that I understand that it's not my own power that saves me? Because I think I can easily see that without accepting any of the five points.